Marriage Is Not Valentine's Day Every Day

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I'm over at Verily Magazine posting today on what marriage is not. Come join me!

I was on the phone with a friend recently and off-handedly commented that my husband and I weren’t big into celebrating Valentine’s Day. To which she jokingly quipped, “Well that’s because you’re married. Isn’t every day Valentine’s Day?”

I about choked on my laughter.

We’ve all watched enough Oprah and Dr. Phil to know that marriage is hard work and that every relationship will have its own set of struggles. We believe that with our minds, but in our hearts we secretly assure ourselves that our marriage will be different. When we marry the right person, how could there be anything to fight about beyond what movie to rent or where to go to dinner? We’ll love each other so much that every day will carry a bit of the romance of Valentine’s Day and we’ll live happily ever after.

Eventually that long awaited day dawns, the veil is lifted, and we are able to experience the glories of marriage first hand. If you’re like me, you quickly find out is that these talking heads tell only half of the story.

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